change we cant beleive in

“pyaar?pyaar tho dosti hai”

immortal verses from one of the most beautiful and poignant movies ever made and as far as I am concerned the best movie ever made . its as though KJ carefully sculptures each and every scene. Not a scene out of place ; not a scene which causes you to scowl. Now back to those verses. In these verses Srk gives perhaps gives the most elegant and best ever definition of love ever given. After all as
SRK rightly asks in the movie “ if she cant be my best friend , how can she be my lover”. It’s as simple as that. Love is an extension of friendship. If the chemistry isn’t good enough for friendship , how the heck can it be good for love ?

And sadly it is one of the most misunderstood notions in the society. Somehow there is this bizarre idea that friendship and love are two completely different relationships and it’s a sacrilege to friendship to call it love. how stupid can ppl get? And often the great Indian theatre churns out second grade movies echoin out this theme with always the same banal and much touted storyline- boy and gal move out as best friends and always stick together like a Siamese twins and then when parents propose marriage , the hero/ heroine goes on and on as though he has been asked to deliver the nobel prize acceptance lecture extolling the virtues of friendship and chastising the parents for how could they mistake their pure and 100% agmark and 24 carat BSI certified friendship which also happens to have recoginition from the ISO as love? Duh duh duh luckily I always doze off by the time the last great soul on earth starts this lecture so I have never had to trudge through the agony. where the hell did this notion arise that love is not pure? That love lowers the dignity of friendship depriving it of that Iso recoginition when nothing could be far from the truth..

The reason maybe is the fact we are such conservative conformists who still cling onto archaic ideals and principles. The inertia of the age old idea of arranged marriages is so strong that we cant break out from it. True we can enjoy the beauty of love in a chethan bhaghat story or a KJ movie and go for days together praising the movie or the book in glowing terms. But its not something we can accept in our lives. Unfortunately even at this age love marriage is a strict no – no; a sin ; a sacrilege. And it is this prejudice against love marriages which perhaps transforms into this ludicrous mutually exclusive and exhaustive theories about friendship and love when the latter is but a logical extension of friendship.

And then of course is the ludicrous stereotypin of love by movies – you know bulb glowing in the hero’s heart , bands playin mellifluous music on seeing the heroine. Something which unfortunately leads to misinterpretation of crushes as love by many a teen. Which then leads to a whirl wind romance and a fast track marriage only to realise that love never happened between them and ends up in a bitter divorce. And in the process giving all the more firepower to all those propents of the pure friendship and dirty love theory.

Now and then an enlightened soul tries to clear this misconception through his work – true his work is appreciated if it good , he gets all the fame but the change which is what originally he set out for – no its not a change I believe in .